To all the parents in vet school, moms and dads, step-parents and anyone else out there is who taking care of someone else while in vet school, this letter is for you.
I want you to know that you are doing okay. All the days that you have sat around and questioned if you are good enough, or if you are providing enough for your children I am telling you, you are.
Those nights when you are trying to study and your child watches a couple movies, or plays games on your phone because you have to study for that big exam tomorrow, it’s alright. When you have family or friends watch your child for a couple hours so you can go to the library and study and you feel like you are abandoning them, I want you to know that you are not and everything is going to be okay.
Sometimes you might be so tired that dinner 3 nights in a row includes the ever popular chicken nuggets. It can be hard not to compare yourself to the seemingly perfect Instagram moms out there, or your friends who may have a little more time than you, but I’m telling you, you are amazing!
Your kids aren’t go to remember that you let them watch too much TV, or that you let them play computer games, or that you fed them frozen meals. They are going to remember that you were there for them when they needed it. You saw them off to their first day of school, you were there for parent-teacher conferences, you were there for whatever sports they may have played, and most importantly they are going to remember what a good role model you were while you were in school. They will look up to you for following your dreams and passion in life, and they will be inspired to do the same.
So for now, don’t feel bad about what you think may be inferior parenting compared to others. I know that I feel like this all the time. I feel bad because as I sit here now writing this, my son is watching a movie. But he will remember that I am here with him, and that I am supportive of him, and that I love him very much.
Remember, vet school isn’t forever and these 4 years will go by quickly. Your children will love you no matter what, as long as you are a loving parent to them and you understand those important moments in their lives.