I’m sure it’s happened to everyone this year. You get on Facebook, scroll your timeline to pass the free time (you know, that time you should be studying)…. and your whole timeline is flooded with wedding pictures, engagement announcements, baby announcements, not to mention the endless flood of pictures of the children people already have. You wonder to yourself, “Did everyone attend a secret meeting and decide that they were all going to get married and/or start a family at the same time? Clearly I didn’t get the memo”. On that note, I definitely didn’t get the memo.
What can you do about interpersonal relationships in vet school? For me, the first year was difficult, and not just in the romance department. I literally dropped off the radar for weeks at a time. For a while, the only person I sat down to call regularly was my mom, mostly because if I don’t call her I’ll get a phone call at 6 a.m. on a Saturday. Friends would call me just to make sure I was “still alive” because they hadn’t heard from me in so long. Needless to say, I was failing at balancing school and regular life, and I kind of felt like I was missing everything.
That’s the main thing you need to keep in mind on this journey. Life continues, whether you take the time to live it or not. As a vet student my life pretty much revolves around when I need to be in class, when I need to study, and when I can catch a nap/go to sleep (oh precious sleep). I literally have to make time for fun and make time to be a “normal” person. You know, whatever normal is anyway.
So while you’re out here with your nose to the grindstone, try not to neglect the relationships you want to keep! The beauty of technology is that it affords us tons of ways to communicate. It may not be a forethought, but try not to let it be too long without checking in with the people that love you.